What exactly is a submissive?
To be a submissive is different for everyone, for some it could be role play fantasy, for some sexual fantasy, for others in the BDSM Lifestyle it goes much much deeper then any of that. Let me try to explain a little the way I see the differences.
Role Play submissive's
These are men or women who want to play at being a submissive either real time or online. For a few hours or minutes they will "play" the part of a submissive calling someone Master or Mistress in order to fulfil a fantasy they have. They will, depending on how skilled they are, kneel at the feet of the "Dominant" doing as they're told without negotiating what limits they will go to. When their fantasy is done they leave and never visit it again unless it felt good and they want to have that thrill of being ordered around.
It may be that they have something they want to do but that rational part of their mind is sitting there telling them they're nuts for wanting to do it, by "submitting" to someone it takes responsibility of that act away. In other words they're not in the wrong for doing something bad because they were told to do it.
In the case of some of the men in this category they may have the fantasy of being dressed in girl's clothes, makeup and wigs and being made to do what to them is degrading things. Or they may be dressed as a baby complete with diaper and bottle and eating baby food.
In a nut shell... these kinds of submissive's want the kink or fetish. They want to be restrained, blindfolded, spanked, flogged, beaten or whatever their fetish is. Once the sex act is over they go away happy until the next time.
not a thing wrong with that as far as it goes and as long as they go into
a real time situation with their eyes wide open aware of the dangers that
could be waiting for them. As long as they sit down and discuss their
limits and the "Dominant" partner agree's to those limits and
abides by them they should be safe enough.
My apologies in advance there are several types of online submissive, I know many who live the Lifestyle both online and off line dedicated to the One they serve, there are even more though that fall into this first group.
a submissive.. really I am
belong to my Master/Mistress
A True Submissive
true submissive serves from the heart, they don't need an Owner driving
them to do something, they do it willingly, gladly, eagerly.
You may by now be asking yourself what the heck I'm rambling on about, and this is where it gets hard to explain just what makes a person submissive.
my every day life I run my own business and have done for a few years
now. I'm very aggressive when it comes to getting a contract I want and
giving my clients the best service I can, yet when my Sir comes home that
gets put on the back burner while I take care of His needs.
I know these things don't seem like much but it's something that I do gladly and report to Him what I've learned so that we can talk about it when He has time.
You may say well this sounds like any normal marriage, and yes in a way it is like any other marriage other then one point ... He's in charge and makes the decisions. He will take into account my likes and dislikes before choosing food, clothing, furniture, house or vehicle but the final word is His and I don't argue about it.
Ok I can hear it now, sounds like He has everything His way and I get nothing out of it. That could not be further from the truth.
my Dominant He takes the burden of providing everything I need for not
only my physical well being but emotional, sexual and spiritual as well.
It's to Him to help me grow as He wants me to, to expand my horizons and
knowledge, to help me get past barriers I have and become the one He will
be proud to place His collar on and tell all our friends in the BDSM community
... This girl is Mine
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